FRIENDSHIP FOREVER..??
On a chilly night while I was trying hard to catch some sleep their pops a question. Can we be good friends forever? It may be a silly question when you think now but spare a moment and think about what happens after few years or after marriage? A true life is not a movie like “Ullam ketkumae” or “Five star” where friendship is like a never ending process.
In a society like us where most of the people live for society not for themselves and fear for what others may think of them. Some per se can be open-minded but most of them are judgmental. At some point in time we are forced to get into that so called shell called “Family” made of compromises. I see it as a license given by this society to have sex with a particular person anytime you want and children who you have to take care of and gives you the responsibility to shed your blood and sweat for the rest of your life for them.
My objective is not to lampoon the basic fabric of our culture where family forms the integral part of your life. People often think they get bliss and satiated to see their wife and kids happy. The fact of the matter are they really happy sparing their own happiness? Don’t we as a person deserve to spend our little life with our loved ones? Or is it a factory where people work in contracts? We all are composed of same so as our family members. Will it be blissful every other time? In that case friendship buds at preschool evolves in high school, blooms in college and aftermath sadly it is likely to fall off.
In a life where you are strangled in a triangle made of wife, child and society. Is there a path to pass through for friendship or you ought to compromise it for the sake of this goddamn society we live in? If I heard it right “Friendship doesn’t magically last for 40 years unless we invest in them”. Unfortunately most people hardly find a dime to invest.
Some may think I am being cynical and in their perspective in a world dominated by social networking sites it is always possible to stay connected forever. But can you compare a warm hug in person with a “HI” and an hour long chat in facebook?
If someone feel that family can also be a good friend. Would you be in a position to say everything to your life partner as you do with your friends?
Finally, let us all understand the reality and try to withhold our valuable friends in our life.
On a chilly night while I was trying hard to catch some sleep their pops a question. Can we be good friends forever? It may be a silly question when you think now but spare a moment and think about what happens after few years or after marriage? A true life is not a movie like “Ullam ketkumae” or “Five star” where friendship is like a never ending process.
In a society like us where most of the people live for society not for themselves and fear for what others may think of them. Some per se can be open-minded but most of them are judgmental. At some point in time we are forced to get into that so called shell called “Family” made of compromises. I see it as a license given by this society to have sex with a particular person anytime you want and children who you have to take care of and gives you the responsibility to shed your blood and sweat for the rest of your life for them.
My objective is not to lampoon the basic fabric of our culture where family forms the integral part of your life. People often think they get bliss and satiated to see their wife and kids happy. The fact of the matter are they really happy sparing their own happiness? Don’t we as a person deserve to spend our little life with our loved ones? Or is it a factory where people work in contracts? We all are composed of same so as our family members. Will it be blissful every other time? In that case friendship buds at preschool evolves in high school, blooms in college and aftermath sadly it is likely to fall off.
In a life where you are strangled in a triangle made of wife, child and society. Is there a path to pass through for friendship or you ought to compromise it for the sake of this goddamn society we live in? If I heard it right “Friendship doesn’t magically last for 40 years unless we invest in them”. Unfortunately most people hardly find a dime to invest.
Some may think I am being cynical and in their perspective in a world dominated by social networking sites it is always possible to stay connected forever. But can you compare a warm hug in person with a “HI” and an hour long chat in facebook?
If someone feel that family can also be a good friend. Would you be in a position to say everything to your life partner as you do with your friends?
Finally, let us all understand the reality and try to withhold our valuable friends in our life.
PS: Written on September 2012
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